I grew up to believe that being “nice” would get you places in life.  I avoided fights in elementary school, I had a good relationship with my Principle in High School and my employers all thought I’m a “nice” person.  But I recently had to question this nice thing.  I started with a company as an outsider and thought if I was nice, they would include me on projects…that didn’t happen and only recently do I understand why. I have been working within different organizations al